There’s a great article I found on the Realtree website, “12 Mistakes Men Make When Hunting With Women.” It’s worth a read! I found myself laughing and nodding in agreement at some of the so-called “mistakes.” Reading some of the examples, I remembered experiences I had with hunting and fishing. Looking at the comment section, it’s clear this is a heated topic that not all women agree on. Personally, I’ve only encountered a few of these, but it’s easy to see how they can happen. The main takeaway is that one bad experience while learning something new can discourage a person from continuing to learn. That applies to men and women in all aspects of life. This article highlights some examples women might experience when hunting with men that could take away their interest in hunting.
Two mistakes stuck out to me and related to experiences I’ve gone through.
1. “Displaying lack of patience.”
This was a problem I dealt with when a boyfriend was teaching me how to fish. I hadn’t been since I was a little kid, so almost everything was new to me. When he came over with all of his fishing gear, I was excited to spend the day out at the lake learning. But when he said, “We’re going right now!” at 8pm, I was caught off guard and got a little nervous. I asked if he was sure this would be a good time for me to learn and he assured me it was. He said night fishing was his absolute favorite.
The lake was in the middle of nowhere and the sun was setting as we arrived. Once the sun set, the moon was our main source of light. We had two small lanterns, but avoided using them because we were instantly swarmed by bugs when they were on. Did I mention I was totally clueless about fishing? Learning everything in the dark was difficult. I kept getting frustrated because I couldn’t see what I was doing and he began to lose his patience with me not knowing what to do.
In the end, I thankfully did catch my first fish (a small catfish), which made the struggle worth it. However, I felt the situation would’ve gone much easier had we waited to go during the day. Luckily, we did head back out to the lake the next day, and his instructions made a lot more sense as I was able to see what he was telling me to do. I caught two more fish and fell in love with fishing. I’m glad that I was still able to find the joy in fishing despite the frustrations we dealt with the night before. Both of us seemed close to giving up on the idea of fishing together. Now, I do love night fishing and would jump at the chance to go again!
2. “Not listening or communicating.”
When I went on my hunting trip with my dad and brother, I was seeing all of the land for the first time. Hunting on it for decades, they knew it like the back of their hands. The second day, we broke off separately to work our way over a hillside. It was pouring rain with constant wind gusts. My instructions were to work my way to the top and meet my brother. No further explanation. Let’s just say, that wasn’t exactly what they meant.
I wasn’t sure where they had gone and they were wondering where I was. Eventually I found them. I repeated what I was told and my dad said, “Yes, why didn’t you do that?” In my mind, I had! After explaining I didn’t know the land or “where the end of the fence” really was, he seemed to realize that he needed to be more clear with his instructions since I hadn’t done this countless times before like them.
A lack of communication is entirely what caused that situation. He assumed I knew more than I did, and I didn’t ask questions to get a clear picture of what needed to happen. In the moment of not knowing where they were, I became frustrated. Thankfully, I was so excited to be out there that it didn’t overshadow the rest of the day. Just because you’ve done something countless times, doesn’t mean the new person learning will automatically know what to do. Taking the time to explain everything in detail will make it easier for everyone.
Learning something new is hard. It’s easy to get discouraged and give up. This article is a great reminder to be a little more aware of the situation when taking a woman (or honestly, anyone) out to hunt for the first time. If a woman is asking you to teach her, she wants to learn! She’s likely excited to be out there learning what you love to do and being able to share the experience with you. An enjoyable experience is going to keep her eager to learn more. Plus, who doesn’t love a fun day in the outdoors?